Do you need help with your relationship?
- We are arguing almost on a daily basis (usually over small things and topics tend to repeat and remain unresolved) along with rising intensity in arguments.
- We tend to ignore each other for days in angry silence.
- Our sexual relationship is unsatisfying or there is no sexual relationship.
- The stress of our relationship is having a negative effect on our children, work and my health.
- There have been thoughts or threats of ending the relationship.
- I can’t seem to get my spouse to listen to me.
- We no longer share our inner-most thoughts and feelings.
- We’re more like distant roommates. We rarely spend quality time with each other.
- There is presence of verbal abuse (name calling, yelling and character assassination).
- We have experienced betrayal/s in the past and have very little trust.
- We are currently experiencing infidelity and my partner refuses to end it.
- There is presence of abuse.
- There is presence of addiction.
If you have answered YES to three or more of the above questions, your relationship is under much stress and marriage counseling or couples therapy may be a good idea to consider. All relationships go through ups and downs but sometimes relationship issues become overwhelming. Asking for help is taking a step towards building a stronger foundation, honoring your relationship and feeling closer to each other.
If you answered YES to the last three questions, couples therapy is not recommended. In fact, it can actually cause more distress to the relationship. I do recommend individual therapy to help you cope and manage your specific concerns. Couples therapy can be considered case by case. If their is an ongoing affair, couples can come in for an evaluation to see if couples therapy is the right path for them. Feel free to contact me for more information on where to start.
Finding the right couples therapist is so important to the success of your journey together! Research has shown over and over that a therapeutic relationship based on trust and confidence predicts a positive outcome. Please feel free to check my About page to see if I might be a good fit to walk along your counseling journey!